It's also helpful to look for attributes of the child with challenges. Maybe Johnny can't read, but he's a creative thinker and wonderful artist. Point out the classmate's strengths. Being disabled doesn't mean being unabled. Take master violinist Itzhak Perlman, who had polio at age 4 and can't walk independently. Today, he's one of the world's greatest violinists. You never know how or what another can contribute to the world.

If the classmate with special needs behaves improperly, brags or acts angry, explain that often they can't control their behaviors, brag to make themselves feel better or are angry at their circumstances which have often led them to be repeatedly and unfairly rejected. Understanding breeds acceptance.

"Encourage your son or daughter to befriend someone who has a disability," says Weiss. "It promises to be a most rewarding experience. Your child will learn about compassion, courage, perseverance and strength."

Exclusion from birthday parties, activities and other events is excruciating for those with special needs and their families. "Invite the child with a disability to your home," says Californian, Hogan Hilling, whose son has Angelman's Syndrome, a chromosomal disorder affecting mobility, mental and verbal skills. "Even if the parents say the child can't attend the party they feel better being included," says Hilling. "If the parents decline the invitation, encourage them to bring the child over for a short time. You may also invite the child with his nurse or caregiver." And, when you have the child at your home, introduce him to your other guests.

With non-ambulatory students, parents and teachers should ask classmates to wheel or accompany the person in the wheelchair to his destination. At Keshet, a school for those with disabilities in Northbrook, Il. non-affected children feel it's an honor to wheel a child in a wheelchair. If a child in the neighborhood is non-ambulatory, offer to take him for a walk and have your son or daughter push the chair. When talking to someone in a wheelchair talk directly to the person in the chair, not through the one wheeling it.

Should you catch yourself inadvertently staring at someone who looks different, flash a smile. That way, he understands you lack ill intentions.

Primarily, we must make these kids and their families feel accepted and acceptable. Most children with challenges are heroes, overcoming difficult obstacles each day. It's crucial we recognize, learn from and support them in their struggles. Remember, life has meaning when you're helping someone else.

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Judith Lavin, author of Special Kids Need Special Parents, Berkley Books, 2001, and a former journalist with the Chicago Sun-Times, recognized the need for an easy-to-read resource for physically and emotionally exhausted parents like herself, as well as their families, teachers, doctors and others who work with them. Lavin's work has been featured in numerous publications such as The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, Newsday, Washington Parent and Chicago Parent and on radio CBS Radio Network and TV news and talk shows including the Today Show and Small Talk for Parents from PBS Chicago around the U.S. Lavin and her husband live in a suburb of Chicago with their two teenage daughters. Her step daughter is married and lives in Chicago.

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